Grabbing your birth story by the ... belly

"I was pretty exhilirated. I didn't feel the fatigue for hours but the pain from the stitching was still pretty bad. But getting to finally see her after so muchwork was literally the best feeling. She was early and so the room was full but it was still able to be incredible and intimate. The biggest relief was when the placenta was out. Oh man. Who knew that would feel so good." - Carolyn B.

 

I thought long and hard about my first blog post and have decided to tackle what I think to be one of the most important issues today and that is our BIRTHING CULTURE. For centuries, women have been following spoken and unspoken guidelines on the RIGHT way to behave and perform before, during and after birth. Ina May's Guide to Childbirth explains the history nicely. One example is birthing positions- Centuries ago squatting positions which can increase the pelvic outlet greatly (Evidence Based Birth Rebecca Dekker, PhD, RN, APRN) became unfashionable and unlady like so by the end of the 19th century women were on their back in the lithotomy positions pushing against gravity by male doctors as opposed to midwives. This trend has somehow continued well into our modern day and age despite overwhelming evidence showing that squatting, up right and side lying positions will provide better outcomes for both mom and babe! The reason why is really unknown, it could be because it is more convenient for the care provider in this position.

Which leads me to the ultimate overlook in our birthing culture --- Women intuitively know how to birth, and our bodies are made to give birth! So, empowering women to become advocates in their own birth through giving them access to evidence based information and learning how to connect and tune in with their bodies is a answer. SAY IT WITH ME - YOU CAN AND YOU WILL PUSH IN WHATEVER POSITION YOU WANT OR WHATEVER POSITION YOUR BODY WILL ALLOW AT THE TIME. It is one step in changing the birthing culture and it is one if not the whole of my mission as a prenatal yoga instructor, birth educator, nurse, and woman.

So what steps can you take to ensure you can be proud of your unique birth story?

Some memories can seem negative, some blurry but overall positive, and some euphoric. However, again and again, I read and listen to people feeling too afraid or embarrassed to really own their birth story. Women who have unplanned c-sections unable to even re-tell their version of events. The reasons why vary, perhaps because people feel they failed if their birth plan did not go exactly as what they wrote on that piece of paper. Regardless, the one commonalty that I have found is that we tend not to have all the information accessible to them to realize that there IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY TO GIVE BIRTH. To really be proud of your birth story you must first know how to become and informed decision maker.

“When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change.” - Marie Mongan, Hypnobirthing

 

Your Primary care provider is obligated to inform you of the benefits, risks, and alternatives to every procedure and intervention. It is then upon you as the client to decide to consent to each procedure and it is in having all the information that you can then make a confident decision that is yours. Through making the decisions in your care you are now playing an ACTIVE role rather than a PASSIVE role.  You will then come out of your experience feeling empowered no matter what changes happened along the way. Reading blogs, books, and listening to stories from friends and family is one step. To truly grab your birth story by the belly takes work! STORK POSE aims at putting birth back into the hands of the beautiful mama, where it belongs. Our classes enable you to become an advocate for your birth and connect with your body so you can feel like the empowered and beautiful goddess that you are.